50
Sunday was the fiftieth anniversary
of the untimely death
of my father.My father was a good man
although, like many good men,
not always an easy man.I thought it would be nice
though I no longer count myself a member,
to commemorate the occasionby receiving Communion in a Catholic Church.
All the way there I thought about my father,
tried to summon up some memoryhitherto unrecorded, but I came up empty.
The minute we walked into church,
before we had even found a seat,something happened, something
so trivial it isn’t even worth relating,
yet something that remindedwhy I had left the Catholic Church
in the first place. This time.
And recollection turned to energyand energy turned me around
and as gracefully as someone
who can actually danceI put my hand on Carol’s shoulder
and steered her back out the door.
I didn’t say a word, I made no demonstration;like any man who suddenly realizes
he has blundered in where
he doesn’t belong,I simply got us out of there—
clean getaway. Twenty minutes later,
over breakfast, already I could smile to myself:every effort to recover some
long-lost paternal memory had failed;
my attempt to receive Communion had failed.Is it possible for something to be
lethal-injection ironic and at the same time
perfectly, drop-dead apropos?The one thing I did all day that made me
feel a little closer to my father
was lose my temper.